5 Irresistible Reasons to STOP Diminishing Yourself

Over the last week I have coached several women who continuously diminish themselves. They all have three big things in common:

1. They are fully aware they are doing it.
2. They are painfully unhappy.
3. They are desperately afraid that if they keep diminishing themselves, they will miss amazing opportunities.

In order to help these women and others like them understand how to stop the pain and start fully experiencing their lives, I created 5 Irresistible Reasons to STOP Diminishing Yourself.

1. It’s hard to live BIG when you’re diminishing yourself.

Living BIG is about openness and the expansion of your soul’s desires. When you diminish yourself you constrict, get really small, and most often find yourself in a place of isolation. Simply said, when you diminish, you hide. How are you hiding from yourself and avoiding your fullest potential.

You were born to live on purpose! Say YES to your heart’s desires.

2.    When we diminish ourselves we create CHAOS.

Diminishing yourself is a complete distraction from what you really want and it stops you from taking productive action. That’s CHAOS. When we diminish ourselves, we are in a state of constant worry about what others are thinking, and a state of panic about trying to be perfect. We judge others and ourselves.

Creating chaos instantly disempowers us from living authentically and taking authentic action.

3.    Diminishing yourself distorts your perspective.

When you are in a diminished state of being you disconnect from your inner guidance and your perspective drastically changes. When you go to that small place, your view is distorted. You begin to think that people are lying when they give you positive feedback like saying that you’re a great writer, pointing out how nice you look or saying that they’d like to collaborate with you. Diminishing yourself makes you think that when others compliment you, there is something is wrong with them.

Diminishing yourself creates a perspective that only sees and hears all that you don’t want, making you unable to receive.

4.    Refusing your greatness is a big energy drainer.

When we feel “less than” and refuse our greatness, our emotional energy becomes drained. Our energy levels become depleted from being constricted, living in chaos, constantly worrying about what others think, and judging ourselves.

This energy drain cuts off your creative life force.

5.    Diminishing yourself makes you painfully unhappy.

Not once have I ever met a woman who is happy about diminishing herself. It is very much the opposite. A woman who diminishes herself is afraid to stay in a small place because she fears she will miss amazing opportunities for love, travel, career and personal growth.

When we deny who we really are, we suffer.

ASSIGNMENT:

This Week’s Exercise:
Move Beyond Diminished

1. Identify how you diminish and dismiss yourself.  List the ways that you do this.
2. Make a list of what you get out of diminished living.
3. What would your life be like if you empowered yourself and stepped into the biggest version of you?

How would you feel?

Who would support you?

Why wouldn’t you want to live like this?

Start today to expand and embrace your best self from the most loving place. Give yourself compliments and accept positive praise from the people who see your greatness, even when you struggle to see it yourself. Make a sacred contract with yourself to allow your beautiful inner light shine no matter what!