Trying to Do It by Yourself, Superwoman?
October 2, 2012 by Karen Fagan · Leave A Comment
I used to tell myself I didn’t need support. I was in a place where I felt I had to be superwoman; taking care of my daughter, running my own business, doing life’s every day necessities and, finally, taking care of myself. I thought I could do it all by myself because I figured I didn’t have the time, energy or money to find the support, coach or mentor I needed to make life easier.
Boy was I mistaken! In my blindness (or stubbornness), I cost myself more time, more energy and so much more money in doing it alone than what I would have achieved by resourcing out and getting some help.
The “Trying to Do It by Yourself, Superwoman” mentality does NOT work.You know it deep down, just as I knew it for years.
Being on my own slowed me way down. I spent time doing the things I really didn’t want to do and questioned myself constantly. This almost always left me frustrated, stuck and overwhelmed.
The truth is that we women need support to enhance our life and to allow our brilliance to SHINE. Our precious energy should go into the things we love, so our brilliance is accessed as we create a healthy body, are able to spend more time with the people we love, and create our own life masterpiece.
When we fully step into our true brilliance, we are able to use our unique abilities to exponentially grow our business and have more energy to support other women who want to do the same.
When you say, “Yes!” to support in your life, your level of happiness increasessignificantly, you actually complete the things you always wanted to do, yourrelationships are much more fulfilling and you make way more money.
Trying to do it all by yourself keeps you disconnected from your authentic voice, desires and talents, not to mention, exhausted!
3 Reasons why the “Trying to Do It by Yourself, Superwoman” mentality can get you into serious trouble:
1. It keeps you from having it all
You life is not meant to be a struggle. You were born to live in purpose. When you’re doing things every single day that take away from your true purpose, you’re giving these tasks your “good” energy. You’re working hard at things that do not fall within your unique ability or enhance your skills in the area where you’re truly gifted.
When you are doing it all by yourself, it is nearly impossible to expand your life and purpose. Think about the possibilities, the growth and success that could be yours if you were able to give all of your good energy to your brilliance, your unique talents and gifts. Success and abundance would explode!
You are a very powerful woman who deserves to be supported so you can create exactly what you desire. You don’t have to keep trying to do it all by yourself.
2. Your precious energy is spent on tasks that deplete YOU
Imagine having the support in your life and no longer feeling depleted from doing the tasks that you really don’t love to do. The shackles on feeling lost disappear. You would really transform if more of your precious energy was invested in the things and areas of your life that completely fill your soul up.
When you are trying to do it all by yourself, your energy becomes depleted and often we become disconnected from what we really want.
If you keep living your life this way, you will become unhappy and dissatisfied with every area of your life. There’s a reason we’re supposed to spend time on the things our souls long for – it gives us vision into our true purpose, the thing that will leave us fulfilled and truly happy.
3. You constrict yourself from the very growth you desire
Let me guess, you’ve tried to do everything yourself and it has left you frustrated and exhausted. I know because I felt the same way. When you have support in your life, you move with ease and everything seems effortless.
Allowing support into your life allows you to expand and adds quicker pace than trying to do it all. When you are constantly trying, you are fighting against the current, rather than moving effortlessly with the flow and your whole life is a struggle.
The reality is your life and the people in your life will greatly benefit if you admit in your inability to do it all and align yourself with the support you need.Your business will grow, your personal outlook will be enhanced, and you will finally be living the life you know you deserve.
More importantly, your personal value will increase tremendously, and you’llfeel more empowered, self-confident, and a lot more like the “Superwoman” you were trying to be before you took on real support.
Do yourself a favor and seek support now. Your family, your happiness and your life depends on it.
“It’s So Uncomfortable!”
September 18, 2012 by Karen Fagan · 3 Comments
I always tell my clients, “For change to happen you must be willing to get comfortable with being uncomfortable.” And why do I tell them that? Because it is 100% true.
Now, for most people, we’ll do just about anything to not feel uncomfortable. We resist, push back, avoid, and procrastinate. We become moody, we sleep too much, eat too much, drink too much . . . the list just goes on and on. But what are these actions doing to service our growth and ourselves? Absolutely nothing.
Let’s face it: change is uncomfortable. Feeling comfortable comes from knowing what to expect, maintaining a status quo and staying within our same old boundaries. In order to make a change, we have to tear down those walls, climb beyond our self-imposed barriers and allow the Big Breakdown to happen.
The Big Breakdown is the uncomfortable period where the change starts to take place. It comes through painful thoughts like, “Who the heck are you to do that?” Systems go haywire, like computers crashing and dropped conference call recordings. At times there are physical manifestations in our bodies like headaches, heartaches, and bellyaches. We feel angry, frustrated and scared so we participate in actions like avoidance when we know, deep down, that it would serve us best to be facing our fears and discomfort head on.
And you know what? All this discomfort is a good thing! Just beyond the Big Breakdown is the Big Breakthrough where you’ll find everything you want and need to grow and succeed. Isn’t this cool? Actually, everything we need and want is right under our noses; the Big Breakdown is the Universe’s way of getting us to step back and see it. Our initial reaction to the Big Breakdown is to shut it off and run away. I’ve been there and I totally get it. However, I’ve taught myself to be comfortable with the uncomfortable, knowing that right past the Big Breakdown is the Big Breakthrough. . . and that’s where the magic happens.
Here are some tips to bust through your own Big Breakdown to reap the benefits of your Big Breakthrough!
- Get comfortable with being uncomfortable.
Learn to master this one and your progress will skyrocket, and you’ll experience ongoing growth and success. When it comes to accepting the changes in your life, feel your fear . . . and then release it. Once you release your negative, scary thoughts, you allow new opportunities to come into your life. The longer you avoid feeling your feelings, the longer it takes to eventually release them which only delays what you’re really looking for… The Big Breakthrough.Change is going to happen. And there’s one thing I know for sure: good things always come from change . . . even if we can’t see it right away. Learn to trust in the process. Get comfortable with feeling uncomfortable and get ready to fly!
- Create a “feel good” state of being.Your emotional state is a big key to what you are attracting to your life. If you want to attract more, you must release old paradigms and false beliefs about yourself. When we are confronted with change, our minds automatically think about what we’re giving up, not what we’re gaining. That mindset keeps us in a place of lack rather than moving us into a place of abundance.Create a “feel good” state of being to move into abundance and attract all that the Universe has to offer you. Instead of focusing on what you may not have right now, focus on what you want. Take a moment to visualize yourself as being enveloped in goodness and well-being. Close your eyes and breathe deeply while focusing on all that you want to attract to your life.Here’s a list to help you get started:
- Love
- Trust
- Faith
- Joy
- Passion
- Enthusiasm
- Contentment
Imagine that you have all of these things, and more. Allow yourself to believe in and expect positive results from the change in your life. Trust that what you really seek will appear.
Are You Willing?
Ask and answer the following questions for yourself:
- Are you willing to trade short-term discomfort for long-term success?
- How badly do you want your ideal business and delicious lifestyle?
- Are you willing to find another way when presented with a road-block?
Just because your bridge telephone line disconnects during your live conference call, you completely spill paint all over a great piece of your artwork, or your important meeting gets canceled, don’t take it as a sign that you’re no good at your chosen path, that you’re not meant to do it or that you’re doomed.
When things like this happen, remind yourself of your answers to the above questions. See these minor disruptions as opportunities to improve your systems. Perhaps you would benefit from delegating tasks, asking for help or simply taking a break. It’s all up to you! You get to determine what your Big Breakdown means and how you are going respond to it. Will you use it to become empowered or disempowered? (Hint: Pick empowered!)
Embrace the Big Breakdown to get to your Big Breakthrough, release resistance and allow the Universe to work its magic! I promise, it will be worth it!
I would love to hear from you – please share with us how you are getting comfortable with being uncomfortable by posting a comment here on my blog.
Go Guilt & Regret FR*EE Now!
September 11, 2012 by Karen Fagan · 1 Comment
I often hear from clients that what most keeps them in a disempowered place is the feeling of guilt over something they did, or living with regret over something they did not do. Either of these can deplete energy and block one’s ability to make clear decisions and take massive action. Both can hold us back from what we want most.
I believe in filling our souls up with so much feel good energy that we simply live empowered, unstoppable in our ability to take action, while living FR*EE from joy-robbing guilt and regret! Imagine being in full alignment with positive thoughts every day; feeling empowered, taking meaningful action toward your goals – what you most desire – without negative thoughts. It is possible to live completely FR*EE of the guilt, regret, and all the “could have’s”, “might have’s”, and “should have’s”. All that is necessary is that you give yourself permission to do it.
You deserve an abundance of clean and feel good energy. This is the exact energy that will build your self-confidence, FR*EE you from second-guessing, and spark the clarity and action needed to accomplish your goals. So, give yourself permission, today, to begin to practice living your life guilt and regret FR*EE!
9 Things You Can Do to Practice Living Life Guilt-FR*EE With No Regrets:
- See Opportunity – Not Mistakes. When things fall apart or don’t turn out the way you had hoped, don’t spend time beating yourself up. Look for the opportunity to learn, instead. There is always opportunity – quite often, what appears as the worst situation, is the biggest opportunity in disguise. Don’t allow the situation to defeat you – overcome the situation by making good use of the opportunity it presents.
- Follow Your Own Path. This is the direct route to happiness. Decide today to get off the path that is depleting you, leaving you frustrated and unhappy. When we give up what we desire and “try” to walk on someone else’s path it never works! Instead, we will only find ourselves living with guilt and regret. However, when you claim your inner truth and live your life on your own path, you will find yourself giving and sharing out of your abundance – empowered and productive!
- Make FUN a Sacred Ritual. Put the FUN back in your life and do it like you brush your teeth, daily and with diligence. Connect yourself with laughter – not once in awhile – but on a daily basis. Simply start by smiling more and see what a huge, positive impact this has in your life. You’ll be amazed at how often you receive a smile in return for one of yours, and the way it can immediately energize you.
- Relax & Get Into Your Flow. Breathe more fully and deeply. Recall a time in your life when you were in your “Sweet Spot” and return to this place today. What were you doing? What felt so great? Identify the answers to these two questions. Let go of resistance and move into your flow. You will instantly feel better. You will know you are in your flow, because it will feel, and taste, better than anything in the world!
- Be Adventurous. See life as an adventure, not just something you must deal with. Create little and big adventures in your life. A little adventure could be driving a different route to work or the grocery store, trying a new taste of drink or food. This will open your mind and your senses to experiencing things you have never felt, seen, or even noticed before. Enroll in a yoga class – or any type of class in which you have always wanted to participate. Create more adventure today – in a small, or big, way.
- Be Bold. Face your fear and take action to create the life you truly desire. Start doing this today. Get the support needed via a mentor or coach. You deserve support in your life and having it will save you a lot of time and energy. Make decisions instead of waiting for the right time and perfect conditions – end procrastination. Take yourself to the next level sooner, because you deserve it – NOW!
- LOVE Your Work. If you do not currently love what you do, it is time to get fully honest with yourself and take the steps to do the work you LOVE. Maybe you love your work, but there are elements of it that you don’t love – that’s okay – there is a way to align yourself to live in a space where 95% of the time you are doing what you love.
- Self-Care is How We Bold Women Roll. When we don’t take care of our need to feel GREAT, we are disempowered and exhausted. Get clear on what your particular needs are for self-care – morning, noon, and night – and put this into place starting TODAY. You will not only feel amazing, but you will also FR*EE yourself of feeling awful – for good!
- FUEL Your Body. Begin today to re-fuel with positive thoughts and gratitude, along with clean nutrition. Simply put, when we eat crap, we feel like crap – leaving us vulnerable to guilt and regret. When the body is fueled with too much sugar, it creates chaos and anxiety, completely disconnecting us from our essential self. A poor diet, high in sugar, impairs our ability to think positively. Put in the good stuff and get great results. A guilt FR*EE diet is one more positive way to live life with no regrets!
I would love to hear from you – If you have special tips, which you successfully use to Live Life Guilt-FR*EE With No Regrets, please share them by posting a comment here on my blog.
5 Ways To Just Do It
July 10, 2012 by Karen Fagan · Leave A Comment
I use to think something was wrong with me for not doing the exact thing I knew would help turn my ideas and dreams into reality. I spent a lot of time saying “I know what I need to do, but why the heck am I not doing it?” This really blocked me from achieving my personal and business goals. Can you relate to this?
I spent a lot of time wondering why I wasn’t taking action or implementing the exact thing I said I wanted. I often felt confused, and I finally came to place where I was exhausted and tired of asking myself this question. I fully decided I wasn’t going to let another day, week, month, or year go by, feeling like I missed an opportunity.
Here are 5 tips to get you moving into your exact desires:
- Fully Decide: It is your time NOW and there is no better time to actively pursue your dreams. Why wait? The world needs you NOW. When we decide, we instantly become empowered to take action. The women in my Bold, Brilliant & Rich Life Mastery Program are mastering the power of making decision, and as a result they are up-leveling their lives and business plans. They are now taking action toward the things they once just thought of.
- Create YOUR Plan & Work It: Fully embrace the idea that you are the captain of your ship! Your schedule is about doing the things you love. There is a huge difference in waking up and being clear about the intention and focus of the day, as opposed to waking up and scrambling, just trying to keep up with whatever comes your way. Make time in your schedule to create your plan and work it. I suggest awaking and giving yourself what I call an “Hour of Power.” As women we need more time for us! You can begin with thirty minutes and develop consistency, then work your way up to an hour. You will find over time you crave the full hour because it makes you feel unstoppable, and you begin to see the amazing things you’re accomplishing.
- Priority & Focus: Get clear on your top three priorities and focus on these. Whatever we put our attention and focus on, we get more of. Eliminate the things/activities that drain you from being able to prioritize and focus. Get clear about where you are leaking time and where energy is being drained. This will allow you to make empowered changes to set your priorities and focus on them.
- Own Your Truth: Get honest with yourself and own your truth. Your inner truth is always waiting to be acknowledged so it can emerge and give you the incredible life of success and abundance you’ve always wanted. Most women hide from their truth because they fear what they will find. They have a hunch and knowing that if they follow their truth, their life will change in a powerful. This can be scary or they believe they aren’t deserving of their truth and the freedom it brings. You should know that your truth is the one thing that will set you completely free; the real thing you fear is your brilliance. Get quiet and own your truth. You ARE more than enough and you deserve to have the things you REALLY want deep inside.
- Support & Align yourself with like-minded people: It’s true what the success gurus say about the power of association. Surrounding yourself with like-minded, empowering individuals will keep you on track to your BIG goals and vision. This is the exact reason I invested in a high-level Mastermind group. When I feel as though my vision is too big, my Mastermind pushes me to dream even BIGGER. They see in me what I blindly do not see; they see my brilliance and push me to own my personal power. Because I’m constantly in contact with others who want the same abundant life I seek, it keeps me fully aligned with my goals. Being with a group like this will give support, encouragement and keep you taking action and accomplishing BIG things that bring the success you really want. You are full of potential surround yourself with the people, coaches and mentors that naturally pull this potential out of you.
Apply these 5 tips to your life TODAY – don’t wait – and you’ll find yourself closer to your BIG goals, dreams and vision every day.
The Power of Focus
April 3, 2012 by Karen Fagan · Leave A Comment
The power of focus with commitment and consistency creates momentum; and momentum creates more momentum.
The actions we take in life not only bring success but also teaches us new ways of being in the world. For example, if we are expanding ourselves to grow our business, receive and be open to love, create a deeper level of intimacy in all areas of our life, we become more courageous. The more bold action we take the more comfortable we become in our own skin. Being comfortable in who you are allows you to experience life from a different perspective.
The power of focus has taught me to completely up-level my life and business. In order to meet my goals and keep my creative juices flowing, I have learned to focus my time and attention on only the activities that will bring the desired results. This means if you want to have more fun, grow your business, lose weight, or improve your relationship with yourself, but find yourself distracted (wasting an outrageous amount of hours on Facebook, for example), then it’s time to bring the power of focus into your life.
I have learned an important lesson when it comes to achieving goals and creating better results in my life: The power of focus is the secret of success. This means bringing your attention to your center, concentrating on one thing intently in order to gain clarity. When you teach yourself to focus on one goal or opportunity at a time not only will you be much more productive, you’ll feel like a million bucks and will also go more deeply into your present goal. You will bring forth your own inner wisdom and insight.
Distraction blocks creativeness and your inner greatness from emerging. It’s hard to focus or even complete what you set out to do when you are highly distracted.
Answer the questions below with Yes or No.
- Do you generate so many new ideas that you never implement, or don’t finish one idea to completion?
- At the end of the day you feel as though you haven’t accomplished anything meaningful towards your most heart felt goals?
- Does your website or brochure describe so many services that it confuses your potential clients?
- Do often wonder where all the time has gone?
We are all creative beings and it makes complete sense for us to want to pursue many paths at once. However, when we expend our energy in too many directions it weakens the power of focus. Is there a project, goal or opportunity that is in need of your devoted attention?
This week assignment:
- List out your top three priorities. (Example: excellent self care, writing, marketing my business, etc.).
- Preplan your schedule with your priorities. Block out power focus time to focus only these three priorities. This means you may decide to shut your phone and computer off while working on you top priorities. You may want to go to bed earlier to wake up feeling refreshed and ready to practice the power of focus in your life and business daily.
- Write on a colored index card, “I am so grateful for the power of focus. I focus my attention only on the activities that will bring me my desired results” and post it where you will see it. If you get swayed toward somethings else (which will easily happen), you can get right back on track.
Do yourself a huge favor and honor your goals and desire for creating better results in your life. Apply the power of focus starting today. Don’t wait until tomorrow or it won’t happen. Your life is now, and it should be enjoyed. Distraction is such an energy drain and creates a big “bummer” vibe. The truth is feeling more energetic, alive, confident and creating sustainable success comes from the the ability to stay focused on what you truly desire.
I’d love to hear how you will apply the “Power of Focus” in your life or business. Post a comment here on my blog, and answer this question: “This week I’ll focus my attention on…”
Free Yourself from Self-Imposed Limits
March 20, 2012 by Karen Fagan · Leave A Comment
Self-imposed limits are a result of our own thinking based on past conditioning. They are boundaries we’ve set in our minds about what we can’t be, do, have or achieve. These limits are not real; they only exist in our minds.
If you’re frustrated with boundaries and feel ready to expand your life, I encourage you to identify your self-imposed limits. Once you know what they are, you can free yourself from restrictions.
Self-imposed limits feel constricting and depressing. They often sound like the following
- I should stay in this career since this is what I earned my degree for.
- I am too old to even try now.
- I shouldn’t risk it; it could take too long and be too much work.
- I’ll never earn much money. No one in my family has ever made over $75,000 per year.
- I don’t have the time to “just do it.” I am too busy.
- I can’t publish a book; I am not a professional writer.
Self-imposed limits are false restrictions we place upon ourselves that stop us from taking further action and turning our dreams into reality. Imagine fully believing in your true potential rather than holding back because of self-imposed limitations.
This week, prepare yourself to jump out of the box and start creating your life from a much bigger space.
1. Make a List of the Limits You Place on Yourself.
Once you bring your awareness to the boundaries you’ve built, you can decide to make different decisions that align with what you really want. You no longer need to tell yourself “I can’t.”
Become inspired and open to all possibilities for recreating your life.
2. Change Your Beliefs.
Ask yourself whether you are truly limited in the way you previously thought. Why would you believe you are limited? What could you do without these limits?
Replace your negative, false beliefs with true and empowering ones.
3. Improve Your Self-Image.
Start seeing yourself as the highest and best version of you. Ask your highest self for daily guidance and listen to your intuition. By listening to your highest self, you start to develop a higher level of confidence.
What would your best and most confident self say to those limitations?
4. Have a Positive Expectation.
Expect the best with complete certainty. When you free yourself of limitations, you create space to fully see and believe in all that you’re capable of. Positively expect amazing outcomes. When you let go of self-imposed limits, you naturally release worry and need for perfection. You become present in the moment.
You were born to succeed and that is the beautiful truth. Now, fully expect it with certainty.
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Are You On Top of Decision Making?
March 13, 2012 by Karen Fagan · Leave A Comment
I can really relate when a client says, “Karen I have a decision to make but I’m just not doing it … it’s driving me nuts!” When you avoid taking actions you have to take, it weighs on your thoughts, depletes your mojo and disconnects you from your personal power. You’re not present to what you are doing because in the back of your mind you’re focused on how you need to be making that decision, returning that phone call, or writing that email.
How can you truly be creative and access your unique abilities when you’re in an indecisive space?
This week a client of mine put off responding to a potential new client’s inquiry because she was afraid to make the wrong decision. This kept her blocked from doing what she really wants – spending the majority of her time doing what she LOVES – because she was afraid of making the wrong decision. Another client kept dialogue going with someone she knew she was never going to do business with. She focused on thoughts of, “I need to tell him” and worried about how and when to do it – all of which blocked her from pursuing the things she is really passionate about (enjoying life).
In both of these cases, my clients allowed fear to create indecisiveness and it kept them from taking positive steps toward their goals. They both knew with 100% certainty that simply making their decision would make them feel better, but they didn’t trust that the correct answers were within them. If they had fully decided and responded, they would have been less stressed; less distracted and felt a whole lot better (this is what it’s all about spending more time doing what you love and feeling great)!
Being indecisive leads to procrastination, self-doubt, and distraction. The energy drain of being stagnant while thinking about making a decision only drives you further away from the success you want. Decision-making always feels better, connects you to your personal power, clears the way for new opportunities, and propels you towards deliciousness in your life.
Being an empowered woman means being the leader in your life. One of the most empowering skills a leader has is the ability to make a good decision.
So how do you move away from the fear of making the wrong decision?
- Know that it is absolutely impossible to make a wrong decision.For every decision you make, you gain experience and knowledge for the future, and open up new opportunities. The fear you feel when worrying about making the wrong choice is your ego trying to keep you small and stuck. Who needs that?
- Step into your BEST SELF.When you are in a feel-good place you will be more decisive and make quicker decisions. Connect to your best self through meditating, journaling, exercise, etc.
- Visualize your best self-making decisions that need to be made.Imagine exactly how your best self feels and what she thinks. Then, when it’s time to make decisions in life, ask how your best self would handle the situation. Would she procrastinate or take action?
Trust your intuition and go with it without question, otherwise things get confusing and unnecessarily complicated. Your answer is already within you; it’s just a matter of accessing your confidence. Believe that your first choice is always the best. If you feel a little unsure about a specific decision, put a timeframe on it. Tell yourself that within 24 hours you will make a decision and then do it.
One thing I know for sure is that avoiding decisions only brings you more of what you don’t want. Making choices can be easy and lead to a whole lot of freedom when you do it from a place of calm. You are completely capable of accessing your freewill and personal strength as a bold, empowered woman … all you have to do make the decision.
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Shine the Light on Your Secret Desires
February 14, 2012 by Karen Fagan · Leave A Comment
When I ask women what they secretly desire, most often they become very quiet. Sometimes, they say something like, “WOW! I really don’t know – I haven’t really ever thought about it.”
Most often, it’s not that they haven’t thought about their desire, they’ve just disconnected from what they most desire, due to fear or lack of clarity about how to turn that desire into reality. Many of us keep our secret desires locked up; even dismiss them, because they seem too unrealistic.
What do you fantasize about? The kind of desire that seems too good to be true? Is there something your soul has been burning to do, be, or offer, that keeps getting put on the back burner, perhaps conveniently dismissed? Maybe you would like to dance, travel for work, write a book, find passionate love, start a new business, or achieve true emotional and financial freedom. What stops you from make the fantasy a reality?
Sometimes, the thing you most want comes with the most risk. No one enjoys facing the risk of rejection, disappointment, or failure, but if you play it safe, believing that you shouldn’t do it if it seems unrealistic, your secret desires will never see the light of day. Actually, you risk something even greater – the opportunity to experience the joy that comes from expressing your unique talents and gifts. Even worse, by not taking the risk, you’re left with a voice inside lamenting, “If only.”
How would your life change right now, if you decided to shine light on your inner secret desire, made that desire your top priority, and shared it with the rest of the world? What is the worst thing that could happen?
In my experience – happiness is what happens! The women I have coached, who have named their inner desires and pursued them, have been rewarded with a deep sense of calm, connection, and genuine happiness.
This week’s Action Challenge:
- Shine the light on your inner desires and share with someone you deeply trust – someone who will give you only positive, affirming feedback. Magic happens when we verbalize our inner most desires.
- Take one action to move your dreams into reality. Sign up for a class, do the exact thing you keep procrastinating about, find a mentor or coach, or do something to bring your gifts to the world.
Once you take action, you will be pleasantly surprised by how things just seem to fall into place as you bring your desire to life. I have never coached any woman who has said “I wish I had never brought my inner most desires to life.”
Honor yourself and answer all three questions – today.
- My Secret Desire is:
- To bring my inner desire out into the world, I will:
- One action step I fully commit to doing this week is:
I invite you to share your success by posting a comment here on my blog.
5 Simple Ways to Create a New Holiday Experience
December 13, 2011 by Karen Fagan · 1 Comment
What special experience would you like to create this season? Imagine creating the ultimate experience to enjoy your holidays and release all that drains you. You have the power to choose not to do the things you really don’t want to do, be with the people you really don’t want to be with or feel like there is never enough time to get it all done.
It’s easy to be seduced by the false belief that there isn’t enough time. Believing this myth will make you feel as though you have no choice about how you spend your time and precious energy this holiday season. Truthfully, there is more than enough time. It’s really about letting go of the need for more time and easing into the wonderful sensation you would like to create. Gaining clarity and deciding what experience you really desire for yourself and the people you love is really important to the joy you experience. Experience is about fully emerging all five senses into whatever it is you decide for yourself through the holidays and fully owning it.
Imagine the Ultimate Experience: Close your eyes and breathe into the holiday season. What experience would you like to create for yourself – one of calm, peace, love and laughter? Take time now to imagine your best possible holiday experience. What would you like to create? Maybe you’d like to slow down and spend more time in front of the fireplace reading and with your loved ones creating new memories, enjoying the present moment. Close your eyes and fully go into the sensation of the experience you’d like to create for the upcoming weeks and let your answer emerge from your soul’s desires.
Let Go: To receive want you desire you must let go of everything that is blocking your ultimate experience. Usually when we don’t have what we desire we either are not clear on what it is we actually desire, or there is something blocking us. Sometimes letting go means doing away with a behavior that is no longer serving us, no longer engaging in a relationship that depletes us, or letting the go of the need to please everyone. Perhaps it’s letting go of rules about how the holidays should go that no longer align with you. Do you need to create a new, joyous holiday experience this season?
Allow yourself to gain clarity. Do you need to say no in order to say yes to yourself and the holiday experience you’d like to create? You deserve the best experience. Take a moment and be very clear about how you want this season to be enjoyed and what you must do to make it so. Your life is now.
Amazing Self Care: Be gentle with yourself and take time to connect with your soul. Fully nourish your soul and body with quiet time, getting in touch with yourself, eating high quality foods, breathing in fresh air, seeing the sunlight, resting and exercising. Bringing amazing self care into your life will only bring you more good energy and joy. Self care is also about having FUN and bringing laugher to your life. Where in your life would you like to have more fun? Grab you calendar and block out more YOU time – do this now.
Savor the Moments: Where could you savor the moment instead of comparing, judging or beating yourself up? Instead of worrying about getting the perfect gift, feeling overwhelmed by time or identifying the next way to grow your business, begin to savor your good experiences.
Here are 5 ways you can savor the holidays:
- Replace all the negative energy in your life with savory, good thoughts. You will instantly feel more light hearted.
- Make a cup of hot chocolate and sit with your children, lover or best friend. Fully savor the moment and learn more about their life what sparks their fire.
- Take a break from the “hurry” and create a memorable experience. Begin to gain clarity from shifting your focus from stressful to savory. This will make all the difference in creating a better holiday experience.
- Take Time Off – Yes you! Allow yourself a day off to replenish and revitalize. The more you give to yourself the more you have to give to others.
- Recharge your “batteries”. When we recharge we vibrate out to the world confidence and feel-good energy. This is contagious.
Many of the people I coach are go-getters and highly motivated, which is fabulous, but it also makes it difficult for my clients to take time off and enjoy all that they have achieved. There is always going to be a ton to do, so allow yourself time off and fully enjoy it. This means not thinking about what has to be done, but rather allowing yourself much deserved time off and a new experience.
I invite you to share how you plan to create (or have created) a new holiday experience this year by posting a comment here on my blog.
7 Ways to Better Your Life
November 29, 2011 by Karen Fagan · 4 Comments
When it comes to making changes to bettering our life, the first thing that you may ask yourself is where to begin. I have 7 brilliant and easy ways to better your life starting today. As you read through start with the ones that most resonate with you.
- Trust Your Intuition: Imagine your life if you fully tapped into your intuition. Our intuition is one of most powerful resources we own. Listening to our intuition is the essence of creativity, the foundation for intentional living, and the source of all our best answers and decisions. Intuition is that hunch you have, your gut feeling or as I refer to it, my “knowing.” Connecting and listening to your intuition is a skill to master. For some people, trusting intuition is hard to do. I recommend you start by allowing yourself the experience of listening to your intuition. Even if you’re unsure, listen to your knowing and begin to trust. Listening to your intuition is key in making decisions because you already have the best answer inside you. By listening to your intuition you access exactly what you need to know and is the best knowledge source for any life or business decision.
- Show Up in Your Life: Do you expend more energy avoiding your life rather than showing up in it? Is more time spent telling yourself you will do it tomorrow, wasting hours away on Facebook, or watching television instead of being present to your life’s vision? It’s time for that to change. Begin showing up in your life — in small big ways, it doesn’t matter; the point is to show up. Show up imperfectly; be exactly who you are right now. Agree to stop tricking yourself into thinking you will show up later – once you’ve come up with the perfect way to do it, the best idea or the ideal opportunity. The best of everything comes after you decide to show up. When you show up in your life, you build a deep sense of self-confidence and which allows you to play a bigger role in your life.
- Learn to Receive: Women are masters at giving but have a difficult time receiving. We often don’t fully receive what is given to us. Open yourself to fully accept what others offer to you; you deserve it. Accept compliments, gifts, and help when others extend them to you. All you have to do is say, “Thank you.” When you begin to receive you experience life and people in a more meaningful way.
- Get Comfortable with Being Uncomfortable: Stepping out of your comfort zone can be unpleasant or scary, but staying in a place where we feel at ease doesn’t help us make the changes we desire or take our lives to the next level. Make an agreement with yourself to find a way to be comfortable with being uncomfortable. Today, do one thing you’ve wanted to do but haven’t yet because you feel uncomfortable doing so. Through the process of doing this you will find out you have much more to offer yourself and the world.
- Take More Action: Inaction does not result in fulfillment. Get out of your head and into your life by taking action. Instead of waiting for some big push or inspiration to hit, decide to take action right now. If you have a sense your life would benefit from taking a class, or working with a coach sign up. If you been thinking about writing that book, starting drawing or getting back to an exercise regimen, stop thinking and take action. Write your outline, enroll in that class, get your art supplies, put your sneakers on and take that walk. Take action.
- Break out of Captivity: Say no to old rules that hold you back and create new ones of your own. Let go of outdated self-images and beliefs that no longer support you and where you are going. Stop worrying about what everyone else will think, turn off your inner critic and follow your heart.
- Embrace Life’s Lessons: Don’t worry about making mistakes. When you concern yourself with thoughts of failure, you hinder yourself from making any progress. Concerning yourself with how you might not succeed keeps you from taking action to move forward. The more you worry about making mistakes the more stagnant you become. Begin to trust that every mistake you make is the perfect opportunity to learn and grow. Embrace the lessons you’ll learn from the blunders and errors you might make rather than allowing these fears to hinder your progress. Don’t beat yourself up about how you might not be perfect; celebrate the fact that you are taking charge of your life and taking action toward your goals!
The best thing about your life is you get to decide, how and when you want to change it. Putting one or all of these tips into practice will getting you moving and I guarantee you’ll find that you are more self-confident and feel more in control of your life and your destiny.
