Afraid To Speak Your Truth?

One of the greatest ways I have seen women sabotage their life is by not listening to their inner truth. You see, it is really, really true that “the truth will always sets you free” even if, at first, it scares your panties right off you!

When you choose to honor your truth, you change your life in a powerful way. You honor your authentic-ness fully. When you speak your truth there is no more hiding out in a life that you really don’t want.

When you honor your truth, every word you speak and action you take only serves your big dreams and goals. The truth has a remarkable way of empowering us and instantly moving us to the next highest level in our life.

By listening to your truth you get profound clarity, increase your self-confidence, feel a whole lot better, and get a solid sense of what to do next. You become free to create the most amazing results in your life, relationships, well-being, and career.

So, how do you get connected to your truth, to listen to and honor it, and live as a BOLD TRUTHFUL WOMEN? Here are some special tips.

Make peace and tell yourself the truth. Stop elling yourself little white lies such as:
- “What you really want doesn’t really matter or could never even happen.”
- “It’s selfish to put your needs first.”
- “Your job is pretty good.”
- “It doesn’t make sense to leave your career and start your own business.”
- “You really want hot, passionate love but tell yourself you have no time for it or the relationship your in is better than none.”
Practice by listening to all your whisper of truth small and big.
Look in the mirror and tell your truth aloud. Write it on the mirror…all over it!
Tell yourself the truth when you exercise, draw, shop, get dressed, or feel uncertain & fearful.
Connect to a tribe of people who live by their truth.
Journal your truth and read it often.
Draw and color your truth on paper or even on a wall in your house.
Go Truth CRAZY!
Start to tell people your truth. (No, not your inner secrets) Start small like when you really don’t want to eat their food they offer you and say “no thank you” or when you just don’t want to do whatever it is they’re asking you. Honor your truth and speak it.
You may be saying, “Karen, I really don’t know how to connect with my truth. Where do I start?”

First, let go of looking everywhere for your truth. You already have it inside. It’s time to claim it! Begin to notice where you hold back. For example, when you want to say something and don’t, or when you want to go for it and don’t – why are you holding back? You most likely feel a negative sensation in your body. Your throat, heart, and stomach may hurt or feel tensed. Breathe into the restriction in your body. Then, ask yourself what do the restrictions have to tell you? Listen your truth will appear.

EMPOWER yourself today and let your truth be told!

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Do you have a big vision for your life and lots of ideas that you would like act upon, but your stuck in rut wondering when life will shift for once and for all?

I have the honor of coaching some of the most amazing women on this planet. What I have realized is that most women have a few things in common: They are brilliant, desire a really succulent life, have a really big vision (that often scares them right out of their panties), and have AMAZING ideas. However, these same women are almost always fearful, unsure and full of self-doubt. Their ideas never really get implemented because they are stuck, overwhelmed, frustrated and unclear. I really relate to this because I  used to be the same exact way!

All of these brilliant women have a strong desire to make a difference in this lifetime. They want to leave a legacy behind and help others by doing what they love. What is really interesting is when one of my clients gets really clear and connects to her heart’s desire, she becomes aware that if she were living her desire FULLY, she would be so happy, unstoppable, fearless and feel a complete sense of freedom. Can you resonate with this?

If we have brilliant ideas and heart-felt desires, why do we struggle with creating a life on purpose? Where’s the disconnect? I am giving you the Top 7 things that Hold Women Back from Taking the Big Leap: Indecision, Procrastination, Self Doubt, Worry, Fear, Waiting and Negative Body Image.

Here’s the deal: These 7 things are very easy to overcome with the right mindset and support. This is easier than you think, though it may not presently feel this way.

Below are the top 7 Things that Hold Women Back from Taking the Big Leap. Read through them to see where you may stopping yourself then commit to live your purpose FULL OUT NOW.  If you need support, for heaven’s sake, just allow yourself to have it!  The only person holding you back is you. What’s perfect about this is you can change it by doing the exact thing your soul keeps telling you to do. It’s the very thing you keep ignoring.

1. Indecision:

Indecision means putting off making decisions or not making a decision at all. Successful women reach decisions promptly and hardly change them, if at all, slowly. They have deep trust and feel confident they change course at any given time.

Making quick decisions will liberate you.

People who are stuck and aren’t living the life they truly want are wishy-washy and change their mind frequently. They say yes/no/maybe over and over again. Ultimately they never come to any decision, so their life does not change – which leads to number two (see below).

2. Procrastination:

Which we all know procrastination is putting off what needed to be done yesterday until tomorrow. Your life is now and is waiting for you to fully show up in the present moment.

Get to understand and become aware of why you are procrastinating, instead of being unconscious to this behavior.

If you have a big dream, but you procrastinate, there is huge incongruency. It is worth your time to invest and understand why you are putting off the exact things you say you desire. Please stop fooling yourself that you will do it tomorrow. Tomorrow never happens. You have today to LIVE FULLY. Make it count!

3. Self Doubt:

Self doubt is a big cover up! It shows up in the form of feeling blah, making excuses or justifications for the reason why it won’t work out right now. It is disguised as envy, jealously, and criticizing yourself or others.

Waiting for the perfect time or perfect whatever (body size or right amount of money) to commit to something is really just you doubting your abilities.

If you are filled with self doubt, you need more clarity. You will also benefit with the support of another to champion you and help you develop the self confidence you need. When you end self doubt, you can move forward and take action on your dreams.

There is no need to doubt yourself. If your mind can conceive it, then you absolutely can achieve it!

4. Worry;

Worry is one the biggest forms of distraction I know. It takes you out of the present moment and takes you into the future – the unknown – which is scary for most. However, in my experience the future is filled with wonder and delight. This is achieved by letting go of worry and getting present with your self, your life and dreams.

Worry is a form of fear and is just an illusion about something that may happen in the future. It a form of “trying” to control an outcome.

What if you let go of worry and allowed something amazing to happen?

5. Fear:

Fear is not real (period). It is an illusion created in the mind by the ego. The ego’s primary role is keeping you from growing and expanding. It wants to keep you small, but you were born to big.

6. Waiting – What the heck are you waiting for?

You want it now – right? So why are you waiting to go for it? Get clear about this.

Most often – women wait for the right time, the right amount of money, etc. I learned how to completely love myself through choosing not to wait – to go after what I want – especially when things aren’t perfect. Waiting is stagnant energy that only creates more stagnant energy – it shows up in painful thoughts, self-sabotage, emotional eating, etc. – fueling more fire to any belief that you can’t do it. And honestly, waiting does not feel good. When you decide and take action NOW it fuels fire to the belief that you have everything you need to rock your life and body!

7. Negative Body Image:

Last week I spoke with a woman who shared her struggle of her own body image. She told me she often isolates in her house. When it comes to going out to events, she gets nervous about who will be there and how they will judge her, and this often stops her from going – or if she does go she immediately starts comparing herself to other women.

Body image and self-perception matter deeply when we give them the power to alter our behavior in a way that does not feel good. In our personal and professional lives, a negative body image blocks us from having more deeper intimacy, wonderful experiences, making more money – it just plain stops us from creating the ultimate life, health, body, and even financial status, we deeply desire.

Love and fear can’t exist at the same time.

Successful women have big fears but they understand what fear is and what it is not. They face their fear and do it anyway. They connect to self -love and value, belief, trust, and faith. Developing self confidence diminishes fear so you can move forward and create your life on your terms.

Please do yourself a big, big favor and commit to move beyond these 7 things that keep you stuck. Stop waiting for the perfect time, let go of the need for complete certainty, the fear of scarcity, the struggle with your body weight and waiting for the right amount of money. If you don’t, you will be waiting a long, long time. Your time to shine is NOW!

Please share with me how you will allow yourself to shine by posting your comments here on my blog!

Over the last week I have coached several women who continuously diminish themselves. They all have three big things in common:

1. They are fully aware they are doing it.
2. They are painfully unhappy.
3. They are desperately afraid that if they keep diminishing themselves, they will miss amazing opportunities.

In order to help these women and others like them understand how to stop the pain and start fully experiencing their lives, I created 5 Irresistible Reasons to STOP Diminishing Yourself.

1. It’s hard to live BIG when you’re diminishing yourself.

Living BIG is about openness and the expansion of your soul’s desires. When you diminish yourself you constrict, get really small, and most often find yourself in a place of isolation. Simply said, when you diminish, you hide. How are you hiding from yourself and avoiding your fullest potential.

You were born to live on purpose! Say YES to your heart’s desires.

2.    When we diminish ourselves we create CHAOS.

Diminishing yourself is a complete distraction from what you really want and it stops you from taking productive action. That’s CHAOS. When we diminish ourselves, we are in a state of constant worry about what others are thinking, and a state of panic about trying to be perfect. We judge others and ourselves.

Creating chaos instantly disempowers us from living authentically and taking authentic action.

3.    Diminishing yourself distorts your perspective.

When you are in a diminished state of being you disconnect from your inner guidance and your perspective drastically changes. When you go to that small place, your view is distorted. You begin to think that people are lying when they give you positive feedback like saying that you’re a great writer, pointing out how nice you look or saying that they’d like to collaborate with you. Diminishing yourself makes you think that when others compliment you, there is something is wrong with them.

Diminishing yourself creates a perspective that only sees and hears all that you don’t want, making you unable to receive.

4.    Refusing your greatness is a big energy drainer.

When we feel “less than” and refuse our greatness, our emotional energy becomes drained. Our energy levels become depleted from being constricted, living in chaos, constantly worrying about what others think, and judging ourselves.

This energy drain cuts off your creative life force.

5.    Diminishing yourself makes you painfully unhappy.

Not once have I ever met a woman who is happy about diminishing herself. It is very much the opposite. A woman who diminishes herself is afraid to stay in a small place because she fears she will miss amazing opportunities for love, travel, career and personal growth.

When we deny who we really are, we suffer.

ASSIGNMENT:

This Week’s Exercise:
Move Beyond Diminished

1. Identify how you diminish and dismiss yourself.  List the ways that you do this.
2. Make a list of what you get out of diminished living.
3. What would your life be like if you empowered yourself and stepped into the biggest version of you?

How would you feel?

Who would support you?

Why wouldn’t you want to live like this?

Start today to expand and embrace your best self from the most loving place. Give yourself compliments and accept positive praise from the people who see your greatness, even when you struggle to see it yourself. Make a sacred contract with yourself to allow your beautiful inner light shine no matter what!

Fear, doubt and worry originate from a place of lack, loss or security. Did you know your SELF is designed to never lack anything? It’s true. Everything you need to create wealth, well-being and happiness is within you. The secret is to be willing to see it and take steps forward to claim it.

One of the most liberating and empowering things one can do is to stop living in a state of fear.

Fear is:

False
Evidence
Appearing as a
Reality.

The fact is that fear is an illusion. Fear depletes your energy, clouds your self value and further keeps you from living the life you truly desire. Besides, being afraid only attracts more of what you’re afraid of. The fear of poverty creates more poverty, the fear of failure creates more failure, and so on.
Really the only thing good that comes from fear is personal growth and learning to align yourself with your personal power to move through it.

Here is a list of thoughts and actions to move you beyond your fear:

1. Realize that fear is an illusion based on your past or future thinking. Fear is not real.
2. Decide to stop running away.
3. Face your fears boldly; only good will come from doing this.
4. Understand that existing in a state of fear is nothing but a distraction that keeps you from living our best life.
5. Acknowledge your fear and continue to take action forward no matter what.
6. Ask yourself whether your fear is rational or irrational.
7. Understand that what you resist persists.
8. Do what scares you most.
9. Shine a light on the places that frighten you.
10. Develop an attitude of absolute certainty.
11. Connect to your faith – always.
12. Learn how to be a deliberate creator and you will no longer be paralyzed by fear.
13. Create your best state of being; claim happiness, wealth and abundance now. You need nothing external to do this – it comes from within.
14. Learn how to observe your thoughts and change them to create a better feeling state.
15. Shut down the negative talk.
16. Do not give precious energy to fear.
17. Accept your truth and commit to end self-denial.
18. Always encourage yourself, even when the picture isn’t fully clear.
19. Celebrate your inner fierceness.
20. Believe you will conquer.
21. Be consistent with your thoughts, beliefs, words and actions.
22. Connect daily to sources that inspire you.
23. Practice meditation.
24. Create amazing images of abundance in your mind.
25. Embrace and accept change.
26. Do things that increase your level of self-confidence.
27. Be daring.
28. Take some risks.
29. Take bold action even if you’re fearful.
30. Indecision and procrastination are fear in disguise; make a decision. Now.
31. Surround yourself with like-minded people.
32. Get in touch with how you feel upon waking up.
33. Your feelings are the best indicator of the day you will create.
34. Practice personal responsibility no matter how fearful you are.
35. Journal daily about your true desires and fully feel them as if they were already met.
36. Be accountable to yourself; have a mentor to hold you in high regard.
37. Hug your partner, children and friends.
38. Get out of your environment; have a change of scenery.
39. Do yoga or pottery.
40. Belly breathe.
41. Get comfortable being uncomfortable.
42. Feel good in your skin.
43. Practice self-love; love yourself no matter what.
44. Love yourself some more.
45. Create a positive environment around you.
46. Do not participate in lack thinking.
47. Refrain from sugar and self-medication of any sort.
48. Turn your television off.
49. Stop telling yourself you’ll try. JUST DO IT.
50. Do not curl up into a fetal position and withdraw.
51. Act as if you already have it.
52. Seek guidance from a coach or mentor.
53. Listen to inspirational music.
54. Read about people who moved beyond fear.
55. Relax and get some rest to recharge your energy levels.
56. Empower yourself through moving your body.
57. Choose empowerment over disempowerment.
58. Write in your gratitude journal.
59. Remind yourself that moving beyond fear is expansion for your soul and leads to greater success.
60. Be present and live in the now.
61. Practice self-care always.
62. Do that one thing you resist.
63. Talk to someone you trust who will reflect your best back to you.
64. Do things that bring out your best.
65. Exercise.
66. Be willing to see your personal value.
67. Wake up each day with a “one day at a time” attitude.
68. Choose love.

WANT TO USE THIS ARTICLE IN YOUR E-ZINE OR WEB SITE?

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Empowerment Expert , and Master Certified Coach Karen Fagan publishes her “Live in Your Brilliance” weekly ezine. If you want special tips to live bold, brilliant and rich in your life and business, you can sign up for a FREE subscription to Live in Your Brilliance at www.karenfagan.com. Want to see more secret tips? see Karen’s blog at Karen http://www.karenfagan.com/blog/