12 Bodacious Things Worth Repeating
September 2, 2010 by Karen Fagan · 2 Comments
12 Bodacious Things Worth Repeating
Too much of a good thing is always worth doing! It’s easy to fall into a cycle of resisting all that we don’t want. We can sometimes forget to do more of the things that make us feel great (and, strangely enough, we do this on purpose). As women, I believe we could all benefit from filling up our souls with things that serve our purpose and make us feel like we’re about to soar!
If you’re ready to be energized and full of life, I suggest you do this list over and over again!
1. Live bolder and bigger
Let’s face it – staying in the shadows of others, being quiet and a smaller version of you, really doesn’t bring your dreams to reality or create meaningful sustainability in your life.
Where could you be a little more bolder and play a little more bigger in your life?
2. Tell your truth always
Our truth always sets us free! Start speaking your truth now and always. This is one of the most liberating and empowering things a woman can do for herself and the people in her life.
In what area of your life do you need to own your truth?
3. Invest in you
Invest in you in big and small ways. It could be as simple as going to bed earlier, taking time for self-care, reading one book a month to advance your personal growth or career, exercising more, spending more time with friends, investing in support to help you create the life you desire, or upgrading your wardrobe. Women who value themselves and their happiness invest without excuses.
Where, in your life, could you invest a little more?
4. Live on purpose
Define what your purpose is and live it without hesitation. If you are having trouble finding your purpose, seek out a coach who can help you. You are worth it and your happiness depends on it.
Clearly define your purpose. What is it?
5. Own your brilliance
Own your excellence and spend the majority of your time here. You will instantly feel happier and connect to your soul. Eliminate the things that are completely draining your energy.
What are you brilliant at and why aren’t you doing this more?
6. Treat yourself with respect
Having respect for yourself and your actions will ultimately boost the amount of love that you express towards yourself and others. When we consistently respect ourselves, regardless of our mistakes, our life changes in the most forward-moving way.
Are there areas in your life where you’re not respecting yourself?
7. Express gratitude
Expressing gratitude on a daily basis is a very positive and fulfilling practice. You instantly begin to see all the ways your life is truly blessed. Ways to express gratitude on a daily basis include: giving thanks for your life, your family, opportunity, abundance, healthy food, and most importantly, you.
What are you grateful for? Start your list.
8. Make yourself happy
Happiness is an inside job! No one can do it for you or take it away from you. Do yourself a favor right now by making a BIG list of everything that makes you happy in life and start acting on your listed items. Feeling and experiencing happiness in your life creates more happiness.
What makes you happy? Create you BIG happiness list.
9. Act on your desires
Take action as soon as you feel that first spark of desire! If you wait to take action, self doubt and fear will set in. Before you know it, you will have talked yourself right out of the idea and be turned off from it.
Where are you stopping yourself? Choose to no longer suppress your desires – act on them!
10. Stand up strong when you have fallen down
Sometimes things don’t go the way we planned, but it does NOT mean you’re doomed for failure (nor should you curl up in fetal position). See it as an opportunity to succeed in a big, rockin’ way! Put it this way: If everything came easy, we would seriously get bored. When you fall down, connect with the people who will reflect your real truth back to you and get right back up. Stand up, strong for the woman you are, and do what you believe in.
Have you fallen down in any area of your life lately? Make the decision to pick yourself up and move forward!
11. Dance, laugh, love, and move your body
When you move your body you instantly connect to your soul and creative life force. Moving your body releases energy that is blocking you. Moving allows new insight and creative ideas to naturally come to you. Moving your body connects you to your natural rhythm so you can move through life to the beat of your own drum.
How could you dance, laugh, love, and move your body more?
12. Spend more time with yourself
Spend more time with and really get to know yourself. Knowing who you are and what you desire is a powerful step to transforming your life. When you are clear about what you want, you can take meaningful action in that direction. Take time to get to know what you like or dislike. Spend time with yourself and laugh. Positively enhance your own life by creating quiet time for you to mediate, journal, reflect, and openly tell yourself how much you love you. After all, you’re the coolest woman on the planet.
Where could you spend more time alone? Get to know you and understand all the fills you up. 
Trying to Do It by Yourself, Superwoman?
August 30, 2010 by Karen Fagan · Leave A Comment
I used to tell myself I didn’t need support. I was in a place where I felt I had to be superwoman; taking care of my daughter, running my own business, doing life’s every day necessities and, finally, taking care of myself. I thought I could do it all by myself because I figured I didn’t have the time, energy or money to find the support, coach or mentor I needed to make life easier.
Boy was I mistaken! In my blindness (or stubbornness), I cost myself more time, more energy and so much more money in doing it alone than what I would have achieved by resourcing out and getting some help.
The “Trying to Do It by Yourself, Superwoman” mentality does NOT work.You know it deep down, just as I knew it for years.
Being on my own slowed me way down. I spent time doing the things I really didn’t want to do and questioned myself constantly. This almost always left me frustrated, stuck and overwhelmed.
The truth is that we women need support to enhance our life and to allow our brilliance to SHINE. Our precious energy should go into the things we love, so our brilliance is accessed as we create a healthy body, are able to spend more time with the people we love, and create our own life masterpiece.
When we fully step into our true brilliance, we are able to use our unique abilities to exponentially grow our business and have more energy to support other women who want to do the same.
When you say, “Yes!” to support in your life, your level of happiness increasessignificantly, you actually complete the things you always wanted to do, yourrelationships are much more fulfilling and you make way more money.
Trying to do it all by yourself keeps you disconnected from your authentic voice, desires and talents, not to mention, exhausted!
3 Reasons why the “Trying to Do It by Yourself, Superwoman” mentality can get you into serious trouble:
1. It keeps you from having it all
You life is not meant to be a struggle. You were born to live in purpose. When you’re doing things every single day that take away from your true purpose, you’re giving these tasks your “good” energy. You’re working hard at things that do not fall within your unique ability or enhance your skills in the area where you’re truly gifted.
When you are doing it all by yourself, it is nearly impossible to expand your life and purpose. Think about the possibilities, the growth and success that could be yours if you were able to give all of your good energy to your brilliance, your unique talents and gifts. Success and abundance would explode!
You are a very powerful woman who deserves to be supported so you can create exactly what you desire. You don’t have to keep trying to do it all by yourself.
2. Your precious energy is spent on tasks that deplete YOU
Imagine having the support in your life and no longer feeling depleted from doing the tasks that you really don’t love to do. The shackles on feeling lost disappear. You would really transform if more of your precious energy was invested in the things and areas of your life that completely fill your soul up.
When you are trying to do it all by yourself, your energy becomes depleted and often we become disconnected from what we really want.
If you keep living your life this way, you will become unhappy and dissatisfied with every area of your life. There’s a reason we’re supposed to spend time on the things our souls long for – it gives us vision into our true purpose, the thing that will leave us fulfilled and truly happy.
3. You constrict yourself from the very growth you desire
Let me guess, you’ve tried to do everything yourself and it has left you frustrated and exhausted. I know because I felt the same way. When you have support in your life, you move with ease and everything seems effortless.
Allowing support into your life allows you to expand and adds quicker pace than trying to do it all. When you are constantly trying, you are fighting against the current, rather than moving effortlessly with the flow and your whole life is a struggle.
The reality is your life and the people in your life will greatly benefit if you admit in your inability to do it all and align yourself with the support you need.Your business will grow, your personal outlook will be enhanced, and you will finally be living the life you know you deserve.
More importantly, your personal value will increase tremendously, and you’llfeel more empowered, self-confident, and a lot more like the “Superwoman” you were trying to be before you took on real support.
Do yourself a favor and seek support now. Your family, your happiness and your life depends on it.
25 Fun & Easy Ways to Create a SUCCULENT Life!
July 29, 2010 by Karen Fagan · 2 Comments
Creating a succulent life is about fully accepting and expressing yourself without apology. Through experiencing every dimension of your brilliant and powerful self to the fullest, biggest, and deepest level, you will gain the confidence and knowledge that you deserve and are capable of achieving everything you dream of.
Living a succulent life means being connected to your heart, standing strong in the woman you were born to be, and experiencing yourself and your life as the rare and divine treasures they are.
- Approve of yourself now and always.
- Passionately love yourself; create radical self-love and your entire life will reflect your positive change.
- Own and claim your inner greatness; anything less won’t work for living the life you want.
- Eat dark chocolate – not in fear of being not enough, but to celebrate being more than enough.
- Set your juicy intentions daily. Focus on what you desire.
- Share your brilliance with the world in a much bigger way.
- Do away with dismissing, hiding and disregarding yourself and your needs.
- Add color to your life where it has been dark.
- Speak your truth and set yourself free.
- Completely and deeply acknowledge your greatness daily.
- Commit to ending self-sabotage and take action to empower yourself.
- Get comfortable in your skin. Eat watermelon naked.
- Dress yourself in a way that feels really, really good to you.
- Do more of what you want to do and leave the rest behind.
- Develop an attitude of gratitude.
- Break free from captivity and outdated self-images.
- Love your body, your curves and stretch marks; see your body as divine.
- Create your own rules.
- Always say yes to your wonderful self; be delicious!
- Exercise daily and connect to sources that inspire you.
- Lighten up and have more fun.
- Do what scares you the most. You will expand and grow for sure!
- Nourish and honor your body’s needs and desires.
- Find your true tribe.
- Do what you think you cannot do.
You are so worthy of re-creating your life to be the way you desire. You deserve to invest in yourself and your growth, have supportive people in your life, and reach the level of success that you crave.
Give yourself the permission to embrace all of you; there is no better time than now. Then, get ready for all the wonderful people, opportunities and surprises that are coming into your life as a result.
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FYI: The How Dare You Voice = a bunch of BS
July 22, 2010 by Karen Fagan · Leave A Comment
As my client Loren started making bolder decisions in her life and career, she started to hear her inner voice ask, “How dare you?”
In the past, this voice of doubt – The How Dare You Voice – stopped her dead in her tracks. When she listened to it she felt awful, began to question herself, and felt ashamed and embarrassed for thinking she would dare to.
The How Dare You Voice keeps you living small and settling for mediocre. When you listen to it, it creates a complete bummer vibe. The How Dare You Voice keeps you from enjoying the process of relaxing or indulging in yourself, it keeps you from taking bigger leaps forward, keeps you from saying no to toxic people and situations, and totally distracts you from taking action towards what you really want. Why? When The How Dare You Voice speaks it creates instant doubt and disconnects from your spirit.
Do you have The How Dare You Voice in your head? If you do, you know because when it speaks you fully feel the doubt. You may feel sick to your stomach, that you’re doomed for failure, or like someone just told you to shut up and stay small. You often feel embarrassed that you even thought to try in the first place.
I remember watching Oprah when she said that every time she wanted to go further in her career, the first voice she heard asked, “How dare you?”
Imagine if Oprah listened to The How Dare You Voice. How different would her life, and the lives of her fans and viewers, be?
I will tell you that every time I’ve moved toward the next level in my own life and career, I have heard The How Dare You Voice. I especially heard it when it was time for me to rest and replenish my mind, body and soul. There was no enjoying relaxation because I kept hearing, “How dare you rest?”
The How Dare You Voice shuts you down and keeps you down. It gets you to believe that you are defected in some way or perhaps just crazy for thinking that you could possibly achieve and do all that you want. (FYI: The How Dare You Voice = a bunch of BS.)
I know and coach a lot of women who hear The How Dare You Voice when they take a step up into the biggest version of themselves or when they take time to honor their body and relax. I have made it my mission to shut down The How Dare You Voice once and for all.
So, the next time you hear The How Dare You Voice, the next time it jumps up in your head or gets all in your face, here’s what you do:
Ask back: “How dare I not do it?”
- HOW DARE I NOT honor my body and rest?
- HOW DARE I NOT follow my dreams?
- HOW DARE I NOT go bigger in my life?
- HOW DARE I NOT show my brilliant gifts to the world?
Here’s the real deal: When you honor yourself by listening to the other voice inside you, the one that says, “Go, be, do or have anything you want,” you instantly create more success, are more effective and productive, and are naturally a whole lot happier. You start to spend more time feeling blissful instead of doubting your capabilities.
For my client Loren, The How Dare You Voice was a thought program passed down from her mother that she had carried her entire life. I coached her through the process of detaching and recreating her truth in an authentic and powerful way. I showed Loren that The How Dare You Voice didn’t reflect her inner truth or capabilities – not even close.
If you suffer from the repercussions of The How Dare You Voice, take a moment and reflect: where does this voice come from and is it rational? Are you willing to detach from The How Dare You Voice and let your How Dare I Not Voice take over your inner thoughts? It’s time for you to go, be, do, have and create everything you want.
I dare you.
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Do You Prefer Consuming or Creating?
July 15, 2010 by Karen Fagan · 2 Comments
Last week I had clients tell me they are tired … tired of consuming the “next best thing” and tired of not getting ahead in their life and business. They told me they have purchased enough self-help books, programs and products for healing and growing their business. They have received tons of inspiration and motivation, but are completely bummed they haven’t gotten farther along.
Here is my guidance (from one Bold Woman to another): It is time to STOP CONSUMING and START CREATING.
It is time to stop consuming the next best thing and get creating the next best thing!
Your soul will thank you. You will feel freedom and true joy.
Your heart truly craves some bold-ass creation. When you’ve realized you have consumed way too much information but are still spinning your wheels it means only one thing: it is time to take BOLD action and CREATE.
You already have everything within that you need to take action. Are you ready to see this for yourself?
You have a choice to doubt or believe in yourself. What I know for sure is that doubting is painful and believing is hopeful and inspirational.
My sense is that you’re going with the option to be confident in your brilliant self. You see, there is no way to know if what we create will work, but the alternative is to doubt and not take action, thereby fully guaranteeing it will never work. I know this isn’t what you want for yourself. You’re a brilliant, bold woman who knows there is more inside of YOU waiting to come out.
Are you willing to go on a hiatus of consuming? My daughter has committed to doing this and I can already see a change. She has decided that for the next two months, there will be no more Forever 21 (a clothing store teen girls go nuts for). Instead she is taking time to sit by the gardens and paint; her confidence has flourished by doing so. I love her smile when she shows me what she has created … it is light, love and joy! And, the best part is that it feels so good to her.
Now it’s your turn. It’s time to start CREATING.
- Clear your schedule and create.
- Go outside to your favorite place and create.
- Honor your brilliance and create.
- Create. No excuses.
- Believe.
- Talk about the last truly awesome thing you created.
- Breathe and listen to your soul. Let it guide you.
- Close your eyes and imagine all that you are capable of creating. What do you see?
- What does it taste, feel, sound, smell like when you are creating? Imagine it then do it.
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Are You On Top of Decision Making?
July 8, 2010 by Karen Fagan · Leave A Comment
I can really relate when a client says, “Karen I have a decision to make but I’m just not doing it … it’s driving me nuts!” When you avoid taking actions you have to take, it weighs on your thoughts, depletes your mojo and disconnects you from your personal power. You’re not present to what you are doing because in the back of your mind you’re focused on how you need to be making that decision, returning that phone call, or writing that email.
How can you truly be creative and access your unique abilities when you’re in an indecisive space?
This week a client of mine put off responding to a potential new client’s inquiry because she was afraid to make the wrong decision. This kept her blocked from doing what she really wants – spending the majority of her time doing what she LOVES – because she was afraid of making the wrong decision. Another client kept dialogue going with someone she knew she was never going to do business with. She focused on thoughts of, “I need to tell him” and worried about how and when to do it – all of which blocked her from pursuing the things she is really passionate about (enjoying life).
In both of these cases, my clients allowed fear to create indecisiveness and it kept them from taking positive steps toward their goals. They both knew with 100% certainty that simply making their decision would make them feel better, but they didn’t trust that the correct answers were within them. If they had fully decided and responded, they would have been less stressed; less distracted and felt a whole lot better (this is what it’s all about spending more time doing what you love and feeling great)!
Being indecisive leads to procrastination, self-doubt, and distraction. The energy drain of being stagnant while thinking about making a decision only drives you further away from the success you want. Decision-making always feels better, connects you to your personal power, clears the way for new opportunities, and propels you towards deliciousness in your life.
Being an empowered woman means being the leader in your life. One of the most empowering skills a leader has is the ability to make a good decision.
So how do you move away from the fear of making the wrong decision?
- Know that it is absolutely impossible to make a wrong decision.
For every decision you make, you gain experience and knowledge for the future, and open up new opportunities. The fear you feel when worrying about making the wrong choice is your ego trying to keep you small and stuck. Who needs that?
- Step into your BEST SELF.
When you are in a feel-good place you will be more decisive and make quicker decisions. Connect to your best self through meditating, journaling, exercise, etc.
- Visualize your best self-making decisions that need to be made.
Imagine exactly how your best self feels and what she thinks. Then, when it’s time to make decisions in life, ask how your best self would handle the situation. Would she procrastinate or take action?
Trust your intuition and go with it without question, otherwise things get confusing and unnecessarily complicated. Your answer is already within you; it’s just a matter of accessing your confidence. Believe that your first choice is always the best. If you feel a little unsure about a specific decision, put a timeframe on it. Tell yourself that within 24 hours you will make a decision and then do it.
One thing I know for sure is that avoiding decisions only brings you more of what you don’t want. Making choices can be easy and lead to a whole lot of freedom when you do it from a place of calm. You are completely capable of accessing your freewill and personal strength as a bold, empowered woman … all you have to do make the decision.
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Self-Confidence Made Easy
June 29, 2010 by Karen Fagan · Leave A Comment
Last week, my client Laurel (not her real name) asked, “Karen, how do I increase my self-confidence so I can feel great on a daily basis and push my inner limits to create the life I want?”
My answer? “Simple.”
Increasing self-confidence is much easier than you think. Really, it is. It’s about creating a deep belief in yourself and owning all of who you are – NOW. Self-confidence is about believing in YOU no matter what. It’s SO much harder to live a life not believing in yourself. Actually, it’s freaking painful and a true esteem destroyer.
If you decide to reject yourself rather than believing in YOU, you will always struggle with confidence issues.
Self-confidence is created from within simply by completely believing in you no matter what. (I know I said this twice, but I really want to imprint it in your mind.) It is so essential to build a strong foundation of self-confidence. This way, no matter what happens on the outside – what someone says, what someone does or doesn’t do, what your bank account reflects – it won’t knock you down.
When you have healthy self-esteem, you feel good, are more attractive, make decisions quickly, take actions that align with your goals, have more fun, enjoy greater success and have opportunities show up in ways you never imagined possible.
You deserve to feel great from within – always! Here are some simple suggestions for you to begin to use today to increase your confidence now.
- Decide today to believe in YOU – no matter what.
Your confidence will not increase if you are cracking the whip on yourself saying you have to do more or be better. You can’t take meaningful action if you focus on your flaws, past mistakes or worry about the future, and surely you will be so distracted to pay attention to the wonderful things about you that will enhance your self-esteem. Self-confidence will not increase if you are looking for evidence and ways to validate your thoughts of, “I am not good enough,” “I can never get it right,” or “I have no clue what I want.”
If your friend, daughter, or niece were trash talking herself this way, you would tell her to STOP. And, you’d be a mirror back to her to reflect the truth of how great she really is. Do this for yourself starting today (no excuses). Reflect the truth back to you. I promise you will instantly feel better.
- Embrace all of your greatness.
When you receive a compliment, smile, say “thank you” and fully receive it. Pay attention to the part of you that wants to reject the compliment and dismiss it. When your artwork or writing is published in a magazine, or you receive amazing feedback through email, open it, look at it, breathe it in deeply and receive all of your greatness.
When you walk by the mirror, look at yourself and acknowledge YOU – FREE of criticism and FREE of judgment. Start to acknowledge the cool, smart and attractive woman staring back at you!
- DECIDE & TAKE ACTION!
Many women who doubt themselves have a tough time making decisions and taking action. As a result they become stuck, overwhelmed, highly frustrated and have lower self-esteem. I had a client who came to be because her confidence was low and she was SO STUCK and unsure of what to do, she actually dreaded getting out of bed in the morning. We worked together and eventually she made the decision to believe in herself. I recently got a letter from her and I’d like to share it with you.
Karen,
Let me start by saying that 2010 has been amazing! Move forward? I’ve done it! I have been more consistently happy this year than in, well … years! No more waking up dreading the day or breaking down crying. I have more positive energy and forward momentum. One of the best things I did was take responsibility and control, and learn to decide and act. Thank you again for helping change my life and giving me the tools to do so.
I am so HAPPY for her – another amazing woman FREE from suffering. Woo-hoo!
One of the best ways to increase your self-confidence is by deciding and taking action. Make a decision and don’t worry whether it’s right or wrong. You can always decide again. One of best things in life is that your choices are unlimited.
If you have bigger decisions to make in your life and want someone to champion you, seek a mentor or coach. Having a trusted person to reflect back to you what you sometimes do not see for yourself is one of the quickest ways to improve your confidence and feel better NOW.
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Master Your Emotional Triggers
June 22, 2010 by Karen Fagan · 3 Comments
Today I am so excited to be with my coach and mentor, Fabienne Fredrickson, for the second week in a row. (That’s the two of us in the picture.) I have crazy love for this woman!
This week, I wanted to share some easy tips to help you become more aware of your negative emotional triggers. These triggers can leave you in the background of your life where you feel stuck, frustrated and blah. Mastering your emotional triggers will keep you connected to your personal power and allow you to create a bigger space for peace, change, creativity and happiness.
Read this week’s blog and learn to master your emotional triggers!
“Master Your Emotional Triggers”
Emotional triggers can happen just like that! One minute you’re feeling great, the next you’re down in the dumps. Have you ever experienced this? You read something, have a conversation with someone, see a colleague who’s doing something that you wish you were, see a couple laughing or a woman dressed really nicely, and all of a sudden your energy and joy decreases.
You may not even realize you’ve been triggered. But you know you feel off and out of alignment. Perhaps you become anxious, jealous, fearful or simply shut down.
It is really not about the other person, what you read or what you saw. Triggers take you back to an unpleasant event in your past, which is what stirs up the unpleasant feelings. However, being triggered is a great opportunity to heal, learn, grow and fully become more YOU.
One negative emotional trigger can lead you down a painful path to feeling powerless if you don’t know what’s going on. That’s why it’s so important to become fully aware of the things that trigger you.
Negative triggers can have the following manifestations:
- Physical: You are depleted of energy, eat more junk food, and become sleepy.
- Emotional: You lack motivation and feel helpless, overwhelmed, angry, anxious or depressed.
- Mental: You are less aware; you procrastinate, and have repeated self-defeating thoughts.
- Spiritual: You have no connection to purpose, creativity or inspiration.
Everyone has emotional triggers. Here are some ways in which you can learn to master them.
- Make a List of Your Emotional Triggers
Understanding what your emotional triggers are raises your awareness so that you can create a plan for self-care, be well and not suffer when they arise. Also, it is important to recognize that when we are fatigued, we are much more susceptible to our negative emotional triggers. - Be Present to How You Feel.
Remind yourself that you’re being triggered because of a connection to a past event and detach from the old story. Release it. Decide to not give your power and energy away to someone or something that is not serving you. The only way to move on is to empower yourself to let go. When you’re empowered and in alignment, you feel energized, happy and great. Stay connected to how you feel throughout the day. - Get Out of Reactive Mode
You can learn a lot from emotional triggers – and growing from them takes you to a higher level in your life. Understanding our triggers teaches us valuable lessons about who we are and what brings us peace. From here, we get to create new options for ourselves rather than staying in reactive mode.
The next time you find that you are experiencing negative repercussions from a trigger, stop and realize that you have a choice in whether you react. If you know your buttons are being pushed, breathe and choose calm. Think, “What is the big lesson for me to learn here?” Asking questions like
- Do I want to react or grow?
- Is relinquishing my power to someone else in alignment with my desires?
- What do I know to be true today?
will help you move through the negativity and learn the lesson you are being taught by the experience. Learn to choose calm over chaos.
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5 Irresistible Reasons to STOP Diminishing Yourself
June 15, 2010 by Karen Fagan · Leave A Comment
Over the last week I have coached several women who continuously diminish themselves. They all have three big things in common:
- They are fully aware they are doing it.
- They are painfully unhappy.
- They are desperately afraid that if they keep diminishing themselves, they will miss amazing opportunities.
In order to help these women and others like them understand how to stop the pain and start fully experiencing their lives, I created 5 Irresistible Reasons to STOP Diminishing Yourself.
1. It’s hard to live BIG when you’re diminishing yourself.
Living BIG is about openness and the expansion of your soul’s desires. When you diminish yourself you constrict, get really small, and most often find yourself in a place of isolation. Simply said, when you diminish, you hide. How are you hiding from yourself and avoiding your fullest potential.
You were born to live on purpose! Say YES to your heart’s desires.
2. When we diminish ourselves we create CHAOS.
Diminishing yourself is a complete distraction from what you really want and it stops you from taking productive action. That’s CHAOS. When we diminish ourselves, we are in a state of constant worry about what others are thinking, and a state of panic about trying to be perfect. We judge others and ourselves.
Creating chaos instantly disempowers us from living authentically and taking authentic action.
3. Diminishing yourself distorts your perspective.
When you are in a diminished state of being you disconnect from your inner guidance and your perspective drastically changes. When you go to that small place, your view is distorted. You begin to think that people are lying when they give you positive feedback like saying that you’re a great writer, pointing out how nice you look or saying that they’d like to collaborate with you. Diminishing yourself makes you think that when others compliment you, there is something is wrong with them.
Diminishing yourself creates a perspective that only sees and hears all that you don’t want, making you unable to receive.
4. Refusing your greatness is a big energy drainer.
When we feel “less than” and refuse our greatness, our emotional energy becomes drained. Our energy levels become depleted from being constricted, living in chaos, constantly worrying about what others think, and judging ourselves.
This energy drain cuts off your creative life force.
5. Diminishing yourself makes you painfully unhappy.
Not once have I ever met a woman who is happy about diminishing herself. It is very much the opposite. A woman who diminishes herself is afraid to stay in a small place because she fears she will miss amazing opportunities for love, travel, career and personal growth.
When we deny who we really are, we suffer.
ASSIGNMENT:
This Week’s Exercise:
Move Beyond Diminished
- Identify how you diminish and dismiss yourself. List the ways that you do this.
- Make a list of what you get out of diminished living.
- What would your life be like if you empowered yourself and stepped into the biggest version of you?
- How would you feel?
- Who would support you?
- Why wouldn’t you want to live like this?
Start today to expand and embrace your best self from the most loving place. Give yourself compliments and accept positive praise from the people who see your greatness, even when you struggle to see it yourself. Make a sacred contract with yourself to allow your beautiful inner light shine no matter what!
Are You the Best Kept Hidden Secret?
May 6, 2010 by Karen Fagan · Leave A Comment
I know that you are really passionate. You are REALLY good at what you do. You deliver products and services to others to help them overcome challenges or improve their life. My sense is, you know somewhere deep within that you’re here to make a profound difference in this world.
However, I also know that you’re likely to question this knowledge if your business isn’t growing in the way you desire, or if you’re not connecting with as many people as you’d like. These fears lead to thoughts like:
- If I’m really meant to be doing this, why am I so stuck?
- If I’m as good as I believe I am, why isn’t my business growing?
- This is just another one of my crazy ideas. No wonder I struggle to pay the bills.
- Maybe I’m too overbearing with my ideas. People probably think I’m pushy.
- It seems like following my passion isn’t working; I should just go back to a “normal” career.
Unfortunately, these thoughts come in once you’ve already started your new venture, the initial euphoria and giddiness have worn off and you’re faced with the business part of your business. You’ve got the “Do what you love” part down. It’s the waiting on the, “money will follow” bit that gets those doubts rolling in.
Marketing can be a scary thing but until you realize that prospective clients can’t find you if you’re not marketing authentically, things aren’t going to change. Without proper marketing, your business is never going to take flight into financial success.
Your purpose in life and in business is to share your unique talents and message with the world.
As an entrepreneur, it is your responsibility to market your business to the people who would benefit from your services. Not giving people the opportunity to learn of the amazing insight and knowledge you have to offer is like a master baker spending all day making the world’s most delicious brownies, and never letting anyone taste them. Talk about a crying shame.
In my upcoming, transformational 12-Week Bold Business Creative Success Program, I will be teaching you how to overcome the fear of self-promotion, be intentional, gain clarity about who you are and what you offer, and create a strong business foundation that profits. Best of all, you will learn to have fun marketing. And, I promise, it is fun! The point is, when you don’t market your business properly, you don’t reach clients who need you and you deny them the experience of your knowledge. And you deny yourself the satisfaction of making a profound difference in the lives of the people who need you the most.
Look out for more information on my Bold Business Creative Success Program coming very soon! Click here to join the “First to Know” list to make sure you’re at the front of the line when the details hit the presses.
Until then, here are four simple tips to get you started. Use these to overcome your fear, market authentically, grow your business and have fun doing it all!
1. Replace Worry with Generosity
Stop worrying about what other people think and just give them more of the true you. You’ll be surprised … they really aren’t as concerned about you as you think they are. Instead of worrying about others and what they think about you, understand them and the challenges they’re facing in their own lives. Instead of worrying so much, take that energy and use it to transform lives by generously sharing your expertise and unique brilliance.
2. Get Clarity
Get really clear about what it is you actually do for your clients. Pinpoint what you have to offer and the benefits your clients receive from working with you. Doing so will make it much easier for you to talk about what you do and make you much more attractive to ideal clients. YOUR ideal clients are looking for YOU.
3. Take Bold Imperfect Action
Nothing is bolder than taking imperfect action. Face it: perfection is tough to come by, so just take action, imperfect as it may be. Sure it’s scary; do it anyway! Often we allow limiting beliefs, rules we’ve created, excuses, doubts and fears to hold us back. It is time to get out of your head, stop holding yourself back and take action. Embrace the reason you are here and your unique talents so that you can take steps to market and consistently grow your business.
4. Surround Yourself with Like-Minded People
There is not one successful person in life or business who has done it on her own. Ask any prosperous entrepreneur and she will tell you about the tribe that continuously supports her in achieving her goals. We all need a support system no matter where we are in life or in business. Surround yourself with individuals who believe in you and want you to succeed. Hire a coach to help keep you accountable and to help you grow.
If you have not already done so, I encourage you to contact me and we can discuss your struggles and how to create better results in your life and business. Also look out for more information on my upcoming Bold Business Creative Success Program. It’s a transformational 12-Week course that is sure to make a huge difference in your business and your life.
